Unexpected Brotherly Love

 

I decided to write an important post on about my brothers, and today it was my oldest Brother's S.’s Birthday, being July 12, 2023 and my Mom and I called him, but he wasn’t there so we left a message and later he called us back.

It had been so many years since my oldest brother S. and I had a good conversation.

We get along pretty well, but in general my family aren't that close together except through my Mom.

Anyways my Mom gave me the phone wondering if I wanted to talk to my brother S. and I said sure, and I said the usual Happy Birthday.

Then after that, surprisingly we started to really talk, as I told him how I actually was doing with my Depression, and Anxiety getting so debilitating, and also my ED getting so much worse recently with my cravings & hunger getting so strong lately.

I mentioned about how hard it was for me to even get out of the house unless I am going somewhere with someone else or are being driven somewhere.

S. is also a counselor and he mentioned that there are 3 important things that he works on with his clients that often helps his clients take away their Anxiety & Depression.

So he asked

1. How is your Sleep? - I mentioned not so great. 

2. How is your Eating? Not good - especially with it going from one extreme to the other at times with Too much eating and hunger and often followed by Too much Gut pain and then not being able to eat.

3. Do you get outside much? - I said not so much, though it was something I used to quite like to do.

S. talked about - how often when his clients have worked on these things that frequently their Anxiety & Depression goes away or at least lessen.

He said that it's not a guarantee, but he said that at least it helps make learning more strategies easier generally when those things are better in his clients lives.

He reminded me often his clients had a reason behind their trouble with eating, and over doing it.

He said he often finds out that they skip most meals until Supper time and they tend to snack too much at night.

So he suggested instead of trying to do the snacking at nighttime, to try having a little Breakfast as well as Lunch so that you aren’t fasting all the way until Supper time or later - that could be part of the reason I get super hungry later in the day and then over do it then.

He suggested for eating earlier on that it didn't have to be anything too big, an apple, or smoothie, or whatever works for you.  That often the more his clients did that, he found the less they would eventually feel the need to snack at night.

Now he's not saying you should forever overeat on things, but that first you work on being more balanced before trying to stop those more difficult behaviours to break.

He said that same with getting out of the house - when you haven't done it in awhile it can be really tiring and difficult to get out.  But you just try to live each day, and try to have a goal in mind - like walking a block and next time 2 blocks, etc.  Now I don't mind walking, but getting out by myself, is more difficult, especially if it's not for any specific place.  But listening to my Brother S. advice was quite helpful.

I know it's not going to cure all my problems, but as he said it's the foundation that you are building up from, so as those things get better, frequently the other things in life become more manageable.  I told S. it's his birthday and he's the one giving a gift to me by trying to help me.

Then after that I was talked to my other brother J. who’s living with my Mom in our childhood home and he surprised me yet again - as he actually thought of someone outside of himself.

I just couldn't believe it.  He mentioned that he gets anxiety and depression and the reason he goes out some much is to get out of the house and to be social and to feel less alone.  He also mentioned having a routine is important to help with that too.  And that he's just looking for a purpose in this life, that someone mentioned that writing about your life can help others and mean something to them and that's why he wrote things out more, and that with that he suggested to me to write and read more to help with that.

That's what I'm doing, I'm writing these future important posts for if I ever get my blog up again- but if for some reason they didn't – it is still something that helps me in the moment.  Of course there’s a chance these posts could also become a book as well instead, as it's something I also thought I might do someday, besides the children's book I already published.

Anyways it truly shocked me as J. finally was talking about something that other people would actually want to hear from him, and it was quite good advice.

I can honestly say that I was touched and proud of Jonathan to not only say those things and realize how helpful they can be, but that he would want to give those helpful advice to me, which was great of him to do.

He almost mentioned that he tends to talk even more or get really quiet and in his head more when he was anxious or depressed, or talk a lot more as well when he gets really excited. This actually explained things more about him as I could also relate to those things.

So I for sure got some Unexpected Brotherly Love today from both my brother's, which got me to relate and get closer to them more than I expected. It also showed me that my brother's care for me more than I realized, and I can say that I feel the same for them and it really helped me to get out of my head and myself, which is so helpful, which I quite appreciated.

So I thanked My Elohim (God) again for the continued unexpected ways of help that He continues to show Himself throughout my family lately, which I know He is continuing to bring healing in that area for me and my family, which is incredible.

It’s so lovely that we keep seeing mini blessings and miracles going on as my Mom would say. And she mentioned before you know it - maybe some big ones will come through for myself and our whole family.

So don’t give up if you have had struggles with your family, as Elohim can help change things for the better even years later.

Patricia  <3   :)

 

1 John 4:7    Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.

 

Here’s a song about being all you are, have and every hope to be for Yeshua (Jesus), and all our ambitions, hopes and plans we give it into Yeshua’s hands and it’s only in Your Will that we are free.

 

“Jesus All For Jesus” by Robin Mark

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Bs4rueLVLw&list=PL3whQX319DaB37iB8NZpJe206iSdpe3kc&index=83